Hello all –
So, after taking a two year break from the dating world I recently started to get back out there. The first guy I encounter, let’s call him TG.
I met TG at a restaurant. I was out with a girlfriend having a cocktail. TG knocked my purse off my chair. He apologized profusely and offered to buy me a drink. He was there with 5 other guys. I told him it was not necessary. However, he bought the drink and wouldn’t not accept no to an invitation for my friend and I to join them at their table. I joined them and after some light conversation I realized TG and I had mutual friend.
TG and I talked that night for several hours before both of us had to leave. I thought – this guy is fantastic. Conversation just flowed and we had several things in common. However, the next day when I reached out to my girlfriend, she confirmed that he was indeed a great guy. She also told me that I was just the motivation he needed to leave a girlfriend that he had lived with for 10 years, but was miserable with. Record Scratch – Guess what? TG never mentioned a girlfriend.
Of course- I am not going down that road again. I told TG if he finds himself single then he should call me. In the meantime I have no interest in being with a guy who is attached to somebody else. This was in December. My girlfriend just informed me last week that he has hired a realtor and is house hunting. He is moving out. However, I do know that anytime you leave a relationship at that level there is a period of healing that needs to happen before they are ready to be good dating material. Another big red flag is he omited the fact he was attached during our initial conversation. My girlfriend insists that he is a great guy though that has been miserable for years in his relationship and that he really is not a guy who would cheat on his girlfriend.
This was my first exerience into the dating world again – and after two years of recovering from being the OW – What do I run into? Another attached guy. It is a brutal world out there. He calls me every week. Sometimes daily. I don’t talk to him. But he leaves sweet voicemails and texts. I just ignore them.