I was recently talking on another blog with a fellow OW about pictures.
I have noticed that not many OW have pictures of their MM or pictures of them together. W and I have so many pictures of each other and with each other. I probably have a 100, and W almost has just as many. We both keep them on our phones. I have told him he is probably asking for trouble with that one, but he assures me it is fine. He’s had them on there for over a year now, so I guess it is good. He says he likes to take them out and look at them when he is missing me. I like doing that too.
I wonder why a lot of us don’t have any pictures. I know the obvious reason, because we don’t want photographic evidence of the affair, but I imagine there might be more to it than that. Maybe, because the relationship is so secretive many of us are never in group company where pictures might be taken. Or many people in an affair don’t take vacations together, trips or do outings…the events where many people take photographs.
W and I have taken many trips together and have done lots of group get togethers and family functions. Some of our pictures have come from that, but most of them we have asked a stranger to take, or we have taken ourselves. I love having the pictures to help us mark our memories of our time together. We have always planned for a life together, and I think he wants to take the pictures just as much as I have to mark these early days and memories.
W has always said we were different from others having an affair. I am just curious, how many of you (OW/OM) have pictures?