Today has been a rather hard day. While trying to explain to W why I am not the happy, fun girl I used to be, I compared our relationship to an Orange tree. I explained that trying to have a happy, healthy relationship with him was like trying to grow an orange tree in Alaska or somewhere super cold. If you look at this analogy it makes sense.
There isn’t anything wrong with us. I love him. He loves me. We are amazing together. I mean absolutely amazing together. But as we grew the need to take root somewhere grew. You can’t keep an orange tree in a container forever, eventually you have to plant it. If the only place to plant it is in Canada you have got big problems, because it won’t grow. You can’t leave in the container, and if you don’t plant it in the right environment it will die.
As the tree grows the needs for a proper environment change. Trying to build a relationship while one person is committed to another person is impossible. It can’t be done. There is no where for the roots to take hold, and the environment will kill it.
Relationships are like orange trees. Even in the best environments sometimes there is a frost that keeps them from yielding fruit. Too many frosts and the tree will die. They have to be nurtured and cared for if you want the best fruit.
W relented today that something had to give. I’m thinking he meant me, but I’m hoping that it is something different.
Relationships are like orange trees.